Take a look at this photo, snapped by my (eye-rolling) teenager. I love my new pink winter coat! I got it for my birthday and I'd probably sleep in it if I could. Ha!
Not sure if it's your style, but this pink coat reminds me of a story, just for you.
Imagine me, age 11. I had another pink coat I loved. It was a spring jacket and it had a picture of a kitten on the back, in 1970s fuzzy soft-focus. Yep, truly! That coat was everything to me, especially since -- with six kids in our family -- we didn't get new clothes often. I loved it with my whole heart.
But one of the girls in my little country school didn't like me, so every morning I'd walk down the lane to wait for the bus, and I'd take off my pink jacket and fold it up inside out so that when I got to school I wouldn't trigger her anger.
Back then, bullying was handled in kid-to-kid combat. Remember those days?? It didn't occur to me to confront her. I was too young to understand that her life wasn't happy. Instead, I told myself a story that went like this: there must be something wrong with me.
I have to hide what I love.
It's better when I blend in.
I wasn't on my own side. (Not back then.) But now I am. Are you?
Some of you will be all <eye roll>...of course I am!
But for some of us, it's a confronting question. Do you tell people, honestly, what you love? Do you stick up for YOU? Do you embrace and honour all the versions of yourself, throughout your life...at 11 and 27 and 50 and 70 and 90? Both your goodness, and your mistakes?
It's taken me a long time, but I won't take my jacket off and hide for anybody in my 50s. I am who I am and the people who love me will find me.
I hope you feel the same about you.
Now that I'm older and wiser, I realise (of course!) that the little girl who hated my jacket probably desperately wanted this -- her own pink kitten coat and someone to watch over her:
We never truly know what's going on with another person (and sometimes, in retrospect, we don't even understand what we were thinking. Or doing.)
That's why I hope you're kind and gentle with all the versions of you that you've been. I hope you're on your own side.
Happy weekend, everyone! Big Aussie-Canadian hugs for all the new people this week.
I appreciate ALL of you.
- Tried to link to my pink jacket, but it's sold out online! I got it here. Not too pricey, but definitely pretty!
- Something to think about when you need to make a decision!
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