It was incredibly freeing to learn that I was the boss of my own brain.
If I woke up miserable, I didn't have to stay that way -- or ride it out until I happened to feel better. I could choose better thoughts.
If I had an ingrained habit of being bitter, or jealous or small, I could choose to be forgiving or kind or expansive. I didn't have to be a slot car stuck to a track.
I am the CEO.
My thoughts are the employees.
Separating our Self from our Thoughts takes us one step closer to feeling better, but surprisingly, it's an idea that so many people don't know. And we're only now starting to teach our kids these important basics of consciousness.
As a culture, Westerners are pretty good at working hard and hustling. We're often good at ignoring how we feel and "just getting on with it." But if we understand the simple truth that we can pause and be the boss -- choose better thoughts any time we want -- we'll live happier lives.
Now that rowing season has started again in our house (along with those 4:30am mid-week alarms!), it reminds me of why we need to choose our thoughts. A 4:30am start can be horrible. Or it can be worth it. We get to choose.
My husband told me that when Canadian naval officers rowed whalers, they were taught to focus with this phrase. (I couldn't find officers rowing a whaler for you, but I found a rowing crew from the 1900s. My teenage son's eight looks fairly similar to this today.)
Focus is important.
But even more important is setting the right course first.
Be the boss of your own brain. Choose 'better feeling' thoughts. You can start anytime, from anywhere. Right? Right.
Have the best weekend, guys!
PS. Do you love the photo of the black cockatoo print above? I took it in the lovely Southern Highlands this week in a gorgeous homewares shop. Australian birds, you are so beautiful! More here, hanging out on the street where I live.